The other day, I talked about how counterintuitive it is for introverts to consider “putting themselves out there”.
We are just not naturally wired to self-promote in all the usual ways.
You know, we have the tendency to give credit to the group over credit to ourselves.
What’s this about? Well, some of it is definitely attributed to our wiring as an introvert.
We are intrinsically wired to dive deeply into our inner world, sometimes getting lost in our tasks, mental meanderings and musings.
Some of this though, is also about how much we were encouraged to be big and powerful in our past.
If humility was considered a virtue in your family or past, chances are you were encouraged to “not brag”, “not boast” and not “draw attention to yourself”.
You add this hidden (and sometimes not-so-hidden) messaging to the introvert equation and bam….!
If this sounds like you, chances are you’d rather eat mud than draw attention to yourself.
I get it. Sometimes it feels really difficult to be an introvert in an extroverted world.
I want you to know, though, that promoting yourself does not require that you suddenly become an extrovert through osmosis… there ARE things that you can do.
Here’s some super easy ideas for jump starting your visibility:
- Balance the time that you spend doing with time that you spend talking about what you’re doing. Practice this with a safe friend. Like anything, the more you practice, the more natural it will feel.
- Keep track of all the things that you do well- write them down in an “atta-boy” or “atta-girl” file. Include glowing performance reviews, congratulatory emails, testimonials and positive feedback from other people who value you and your work.
- After meetings, write follow up emails and messages to others confirming your contributions and points, as well as to acknowledge those of others.
And if you are interested in really getting out of your comfort zone…
- Put yourself on the agenda for a meeting to begin to build a platform for your ideas.
Now there’s an idea!
As I’ve said before, what you have going for you as an introvert, is the ability to deeply commit to learning how to do this with depth and intensity.
Don’t wait for others to figure out your gifts on their own. It’s up to you to find a way to share your potential and your passion with the world.
If you’d like some help with learning how to do this, let’s talk.
I am grateful that you are a part of my community and I am here to support you however I can.
Stay safe and be well.